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I finally discovered the magic trick that will get me to crosspost consistently. All LJ had to do was completely bork the post interface! So now I will just post to DW and you can comment wherever. I don't care.

So I'm reading this book called How to Make People Like You In 90 Seconds Or Less. It's about body language, and how to use it to establish a rapport with other people. I always say that the key to my professional success is that I don't really care what other people think of me, so I don't waste time being passive aggressive. If you don't like me, oh well. Here's how things are going to go, and that's the end of it. It's pretty efficient, and it has the side affect of making people want me to like them, for some reason.

I've employed this approach when job hunting over the years as well, and I've always said that the reason I've had success in a really tight job market is that I always go into an interview not caring whether or not they hire me. They'd be lucky to have me! It tends to make you a lot more relaxed.

Well, for the first time in my life I actually care whether or not I get a job, so I'm brushing up on my first impression skills. It's really very interesting, to be honest. I would recommend this book for introverts who have to fake it in order to get ahead or even just make a good impression. There are some great tips in there.

Next on my list is Sixty Seconds to You're Hired, which I have read before, but I need to refresh my memory. The only problem is that I tend to listen to nonfiction, and the author read that one herself. That was not the best decision. Her voice is pretty irritating.

I've written quite a bit lately! I just can't show you any of it. My Yuletide fic is still not done, but I have an outline for the rest of it, so fingers crossed I'll get it done pretty soon here. Yesterday I took a break to write a couple things for Fandom Stocking, but today I'll get back to my Yuletide Fic. Honest. I'm going. Here I go.

ETA: I just totally thought of something I should have asked for in my fandom stocking. A Will/Finn header for my LJ! Though I would be hard-pressed to let this one go, I love it so much. Still, there's been so much hugging and touching and longing looks on the show lately that it would be glorious. But it's not worth making Medie edit my entry for a pairing that squicks 90% of the population. Alas.

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Yeah for crossposting!! And yeah I have no idea what LJ did to the posting interface (or editing) but I discovered it the other day and promptly backed away slowly. Or quickly rather.

Your approach to people liking you probably does well because it means you seem to exude confidence and there is nothing people find more attractive than that, platonic or otherwise. People like confident people - maybe it subconsciously helps them feel more confident themselves, thus boosting their self-esteem? Whatever the case, it's attractive and I need to learn how to do it again. I used to and then I got really self-conscious for a number of reasons and I'm trying to get over it again.

I haven't even tried to use the new LJ interface. I took one look, said, "Nope," and came over here. Honestly my DW is seeing more action than LJ these days anyway, as far as readers go. LJ is like a ghost town now.

Confidence is key for sure. The main stumbling block for me is my appearance, but I'm working on feeling more confident in my physical self so that it reflects how I feel about the rest of me.

I only tried it because I had to go and edit a post on LJ and was horrified at what they'd done. I don't go there to post at all anymore. I hear you though. It's tumbleweed city over there.

Ditto. I am not as happy with my appearance as I used to be and I'm working on either getting back to what made me happy, or being happy with how I look now. Neither one is very easy. It's a work in progress, which is what I think we all are.

I'd heard about LJ's most recent idiocy. :/ But yay for more crossposting?

And this book definitely sounds like something I could use. I give horrible interviews because I always feel like I'm being judged even before it starts. I could also use your 'and no fucks were given' attitude, as well, but just for my daily life. That would be awesome.

Yay for Yuletide progress! :D

It's an interesting book. I'm listening to it and the author is British, which doesn't hurt either.

I have to say not caring has gotten a lot easier with age. I used to care. Then I got over it.

I usually have trouble absorbing stuff if it's just spoken to me so I might try finding the book itself in non-audio format. But, ooh, British accent.

Heh, yeah I've definitely noticed. It's like once I hit 25, my BS-tolerance topped off.

I always think of people like cats, cause they are going to seek out the one person who does not want them. Good luck!

You're not wrong. Especially the weirdo cat people around here.